Importance of Controlling Emotions

Knowing how to manage emotions affects the ways of relating and even transcends these according to the circumstances, at the request of the field work, and the state of comprehensive health, as consequences produced by overwhelming moments capable of hindering cognitive abilities, clouding and confusing interests, manifesting in sudden reactions and/or decisions that can lead to more challenging situations. permanence. But it must be understood that emotions occur naturally, that is, they cannot be ignored, however the difference and importance lies in the ways in which one manifests and manages them within their environment. Although the expression of an emotion may be unavoidable, there are different degrees that develop from the instance in which it arises, leading to a dynamic process in a context and space that are typically shared with others.

Recognize an emotion and become aware of the responsibility to act accordingly in order to control the situation

People are constantly going through countless emotions, such as joy, sadness and anger, frustration, irritability, anguish, hope, etc. We get excited all the time, even if we are not aware of it, due to habit, variation in the intensity of emotions, lack of self-perception, among other causes. Usually, we notice when they are presented to us abruptly and/or with great power.

Emotions in themselves are neither good nor bad, nor are they ours. responsibility. However, the decisions and acts that follow from reflection, based on emotions, are indeed our decision and have to do with our will and our ability to control. For example: if someone does something that annoys me, it is logical that anger invades me, but responding temperately or, conversely, violently, is my choice.

It should be noted, however, that we are not fully free when we react to others or to experiences, but the better you control emotions, the greater degrees of freedom we can reach. Self-control, thinking cold, gives us greater freedom to act.

So, we cannot avoid affections, whether they are pleasant or not, for which ideally we should learn to manage them, so that they do not harm our goals and projects, ideals, health, relationships with others.

In the workplace, for example, problematic situations may occur with colleagues or bosses, before which we must reflect before responding or acting, calm down, take a deep breath, count to ten and think about the possible consequences. Respect is the best way to communicate our ideas and value differences.

In family, friendship and partner relationships, emotions must also be expressed delicately and prudently to take care of the bond and make it last over time.

With children, likewise, it is important to manage emotions, because that is how we teach them to do the same to them. However, if emotions overwhelm us, since we are human beings, it is good to put it into words, for example, saying what we feel, assuming if we communicate in an inappropriate way and asking apologies. That does not take away our authority, but it shows us real, fallible and reflective.

It is essential to be kind to others and to ourselves, accepting that we will not always be able to control emotions skillfully, being continuous learning, which never ends be achieved.

What if we want to silence emotions?

When emotions are there but are not heard, what happens is that they try to make themselves heard more forcefully and thus symptoms can appear in the psyche or in the body. For example, unbearable headaches, contractures, vomiting, as well as ideas that haunt our minds all the time, causing discomfort.

Validating our emotions, giving them a space to be felt and expressed, thinking about their causes and their management, constitutes an important point in Mental Health care.

Emotions as a guide

Happy emotions can be a sign that we are on the right track, according to our projects, ideals, people around us, etc. While sad emotions can mark us that it would be good to make changes or embark on new adventures.

Extreme emotions -violent, angry, impulsive, suicidal, passionate- are a signal to ask help a professional psychologist or psychiatrist, so as not to harm ourselves or others people.

Emotions at every stage of life

The first years of life are charged with intense and fleeting emotions. Children are constantly surprised, because the world is new to them, to the point that they are fascinated by small details that adults already have naturalized.

But also, they get angry or burst into tears very easily, because they do not have much practice in controlling emotions and many times they lack the words to say what they are saying. feeling or do not understand it and, consequently, respond with their bodies -with blows, bites, pushes-, without being fully aware of their actions, especially in the first years.

Again, emotions appear with great force in the adolescence, stage with many biological changes, where the characteristics of the body are visibly modified and that generates repercussions at the social and intrapsychic level. Psychologically, it is a favorable phase for the development of autonomy, independence, the departure from parental ideals and the appearance of new "idols" or preferences, in the extra-familial.

With the arrival of adulthood, emotions often have to do with work or partner relationships, the search for financial stability, the realization of projects, etc. -depending on each particular subject, this may vary a lot-.

Finally, in the third age the emotions can be nostalgia for an earlier time, frustration due to the new limitations, as well as calm or enjoyment, if you can appreciate this moment for rest and you have reached where you wanted in the life. On the opposite path, there are also many older adults with more daring emotions, wanting to take risks and continue or even start projects.

In conclusion - and considering the diversity -, although there are "typical" emotions of certain periods of life, we can find ourselves with emotions that are extremely different from those "expected", especially in the Today where ideals are not so strong -at least in a large part of the world- and that gives rise to each one being able to follow, with fewer ties, the desire that dwells.