Example of Prince Charming Syndrome

The prince charming syndrome It is a variation of the Cinderella complex. While in the Cinderella complex it is generally the woman who lives martyred waiting for her prince charming, in the prince charming syndrome, it is both men and women who live hopefully to one day find their dream partner.

But unlike the Cinderella complex, people with prince charming syndrome not necessarily living poorly or working selflessly while waiting for their ideal partner, many have a wealthy position surrounded by luxury. In many cases these people already have a partner, but they always find fault with them and this complicates their relationship, because in one way or another their partner ends up feeling insufficient for them.

This syndrome occurs mainly in perfectionist and insecure people who want to cover their faults with the virtues of a perfect partner. Some what they are unconsciously looking for is someone to raise their status, that is why they idealize the couple. Rich, beautiful and powerful. All this shows that the person feels unconsciously uneasy, inferior or unprotected, that is why He is looking for someone who can give him the protection, affection, care and satisfaction that he feels he lacks.

This disorder arises in childhood or adolescence, since it is then that people with the education they receive and the culture that surrounds them, they begin to idealize the person with whom they would like to form a couple, many with the experiences they live will change and will be coupled to reality, but other people, on the contrary, increasingly idealize the person with whom they are would like to be. Reaching such extreme cases that partners will only be sought if they have the physical, intellectual, moral or economic aspect that they idealize. For example There are women who only look for blond men with blue eyes and American type, because they look like their favorite artist, men who believe they find their soul mate in a woman of exotic beauty, lush youth and historical ancestry, etc.

People with prince charming syndrome, generally imagine their perfect partner as a man or woman without defects or few of them, with a character or personality completely attachable to them, generally with a beauty far superior to that of most of the world and of themselves. Many imagine their partner tremendously wealthy, with a gifted intelligence, with a lineage that borders on the royalty and with a power that surpasses anyone and would solve without complications his heavy situation in case of have it.

People with this disorder generally feel a certain resentment towards people of the opposite sex, because none of them meets their expectations and on many occasions they are mistreated or are looking for defects constantly. The people they are attracted to are usually already engaged and even married as these people are probably more stable, affectionate, etc. and for that reason sometimes they end up being his lovers. Sometimes they unconsciously look for someone like their father (in the case of women) or their mother (in the case of women) in their ideal partner. of men) since in their parents they unconsciously find perfection (many women see in their father the perfect man, cultured kind and who treats them like princesses, while men look for a woman who will continue to take care of them and treat them as she does her mother)

They consciously or unconsciously mistreat their partners, often almost imperceptibly, or make them knowing almost always unconsciously that they are not good enough for them or they in the case of they. They argue easily about ridiculous things, they praise another in front of them, they look with flirtation or desire to a third more similar to their idealization. Without realizing it, they continue looking for their ideal partner, either outside of the relationship they already have or trying to change their current partner to resemble their idealization. They force them to dress, groom, and behave as they like, in extreme cases they are asked to have surgery, injecting or modifying their body to resemble their idealization, They end up destroying their partner until they transform him into what they seek, denying the nature of his partner and physically turning him into something similar to his prince charming or Princess.

People with prince charming syndrome They tend to end up abandoned by their partners or by being the ones who abandon their consorts in search of someone better. When they manage to overcome this disorder and accept that people have qualities and defects then they can lead a full and satisfying life. Therefore, it is necessary for people with this syndrome to seek help from a therapist and overcome their insecurities, fears and complexes and learn to live without looking for someone with whom to fill their emotional voids, they must learn to accept themselves in order to accept others as They are.