Definition of Perfectionist Person

Perfectionism is a psychological trap that leads some people to turn this defect into a virtue. In fact, many candidates make this personal adjective a good cover letter in a interview of work. Perfection can be exhilarating in certain spheres of life, for example, the contemplation of a natural landscape that is perceived immense in beauty.

However, when it refers to human action, then, this self-demand generates more frustration and suffering than personal satisfaction. In fact, those who place the burden on themselves of always acting on the terms of an honorary degree, suffers because they put a weight on themselves that prevents them from enjoying and appreciating their achievements.

Characteristics of a perfectionist person

1. Does not measure your evolution and personal growth from herself, from her own path, but compares herself with others. And he always looks at the one he considers best in excellence.

2. A self-esteem It depends on external results. In the face of professional success, the ego increases, on the contrary, in the face of a defeat or an unexpected event, the person feels vulnerable in her self-esteem. Identify your personal worth with your own external achievements.

3. Generally, they are people who also show this attitude even in his appearance through the aesthetic care of an impeccable image. She cares about the image she projects on others through her appearance.

4. Stress. This chronic self-demand, this desire to achieve the highest goals, leads the person to not enjoy the process with ease. These high expectations can become a psychological slab that produces added stress to any type of learning.

5. The map of the reality of a person with this psychological profile is defined by a territory in which error is a stigmatized concept. In this way, suffering is infinite after having experienced defeat. The person does not allow himself to fail, he blames himself for it.

6. People who are demanding with themselves are also demanding with others. For this reason, when a person with this profile adopts the role of boss, for example, he will also have this demand with his workers.

7. The usual discourse of perfectionists is defined by absolute value terms: all, always, never, or nothing. From this point of view, life is measured in "black or white" and the shades of colors in between are lost.

8. He confuses being better with being happy when, curiously, that perfectionism prevents him from true inner well-being and joy.

Low level of spontaneity

They are people who want to have everything under control, and for this reason, they are not very spontaneous, they have difficulties improvising. They think about things a lot before saying them or before acting.

Sometimes, when the feeling of perfectionism becomes pathological, the person comes to sacrifice his own personal development at the cost of work addiction.

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