Concept in Definition ABC
Miscellanea / / July 04, 2021
By Florencia Ucha, in Sep. 2009
There are reactions that are typically human and that group could not be without jealousy, so recurrent and common among those who love each other. Because basically jealousy is a spontaneous emotional reaction when someone feels that the one they love can be taken away by another. For example, in heat, there is a lot of fear of losing what you love madly because you feel a threat concrete.
Now, that fear can be something real and concrete, that is, thinking about a sentimental relationship As a couple, a man may feel jealous if he sees that another man tries to approach her girlfriend sexually. Or on the other hand, we can talk about something unfounded when there is no concrete evidence or any kind of that threat but the person still experiences jealousy. In this case there is surely some unsafety and mistrust from behind that will have to be analyzed and deepened, perhaps within the framework of a therapy or in an intimate conversation with the one who is jealous.
Then, jealousy is known as the emotional, mental and behavioral response that a certain individual will display and that will arise before the perception of this, which in this case would incarnate the jealous person, of a certain and concrete external threat that can put or endanger an important personal relationship with that person in hiding.
The relationship can be romantic, such as husband-wife, boyfriend-girlfriend, or it can be a super close relationship but without there being a romantic bond, such as that between parents and children, between siblings, friends, or co-workers, in the latter case not a single dispute for someone's love, affection or attention, but rather for a position in the organization, for the achievements and triumphs that another reaches, for the charisma or the income those available to the other and that we lack, among other issues.
Although the normal and usual, that is, what is most seen is jealousy between two people who have a love relationship, jealousy is very frequent, out there less confessed, in other types of relationships, as we have already pointed out, between direct relatives, friends, and even between colleagues office.
Jealousy from the perspective of psychology
And as a good human emotional reaction, the presence of psychology could not be absent, studying them, from all their perspectives and angles ...
Psychology, already more technically and professionally, explains that jealousy is a defense mechanism, a natural response of an individual to the conscious and concrete threat of losing a relationship interpersonal important and dear to the jealous person.
According to various scientists, this conduct It can be triggered by two fundamental issues... On the one hand, because the loss of the relationship would mean for the jealous person the loss of a good number of benefits and rewards that the relationship in question reports, because quite simply, it can happen that the jealous person no longer shares more pleasant, pleasant moments and a good quality of life with the person ambush.
And on the other hand, the second issue that can give rise to jealousy is the loss of safety in himself and with regard to the self-esteem that the jealous person will experience, because he tends to think that if the person who is wants and cela chose, chose another, then, that happened because he is better than me, which causes a succulent loss at the level of self-esteem.
Jealousy is always due to the presence of a third party, in the case of a couple it may be the close relationship that one of them must maintain or maintain with a work or study colleague what awakens the behavior jealous. In the case of familyBetween father and children, it may be that the object of jealousy is triggered just before the birth of a brother, the boy believing that for this reason he will lose the attention and affection of his parents.
Jealousy treatment
Like any other emotional characteristic that is uncomfortable for the person who recognizes it as their own, jealousy can also be treated and cured, if the person makes an effort, their self-esteem increases and obviously undergoes psychotherapy to help them in this regard ...
Although it is a problem, which when dealt with in time with a professional or with a talk in which the points are clarified, it should not represent too many problems, it is also It is true that it can lead to serious behavior problems, even reaching a level of violence and deadly aggression, if it is not controlled properly and of course, weather.
Unfortunately, there are many cases of gender violence that have been reported in recent times and that are caused by the jealousy of a partner, a spouse, among others.
As we said, they can be treated with therapy, but when someone cannot overcome them or does not want to recognize them, it is advisable that the person who is being held away leaves forever to avoid greater retaliation.