Concept in Definition ABC
Miscellanea / / July 04, 2021
By Javier Navarro, in May. 2014
Human behavior is really complex. Proof of this is the large amount of knowledge that, from different points of view, is used to know it. Let's think about the psychology, the anthropology or pedagogy, sciences that analyze the conduct from their own methodological approaches.
If human behavior is complex, it is logical that the language that describes such behavior is equally complex. And if we refer to interpersonal relationships, there are numerous terms that explain some nuance or trend in relation to how we behave. If a person tries to please others and to please them, he will use flattery. Thus, flattery is the word or set of words that we use to be pleasant to other people.
The resource of flattery is very common, we constantly use it, since it is positive to be kind and polite, to please the individuals around us. In any case, flattery incorporates an idea that goes beyond simple kindness, because flattering someone means that we want to please them but with some intention on our part. It is appreciated, therefore, that flattery is a hidden way of looking after our interests. In fact, by acknowledging that our
interlocutor he does something very well done, we are seducing him and it is very likely that with that action we want something in return.The compliment is not disinterested. If it were, we would be talking about a simple correct or friendly comment.
The words we use to recognize or emphasize the qualities of others are really useful in the exchange of information. We use flattery to conquer someone in the love arena or to make them believe that we are satisfied even if it is not true. Is attitude can be interpreted as hypocritical. And, certainly, if the compliment is totally false or we are lying by mentioning it, we would be being hypocritical.
Flattering can also manifest a weakness that is ours personality. If an individual resorts to flattery very often because he accepts the proposals of others, without a doubt we would be talking about a person without his own criteria and who uses flattery to not defend his ideas and his own opinion.
Using words that flatter does not show that we are doing it right or wrong. It is actually a matter of quantity and sincerity. If the use of flattery is permanent and false, it is clearly not a virtuous behavior. On the other hand, if the compliment is used moderately and without exaggeration, we would be being sociable and communicative people, who know empathize in personal relationships.
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